Ever try to "change" your spouse, to make them become better or different how'd that go?

Ever try to "change" your spouse, to make them become better or different how'd that go? 

After sitting in a conference last week listening to Chalene Johnson speak, I had so many stories come to mind about my own marriage and me trying to leap into my dreams and leaving my husband behind after 10 years of marriage and 14 years together our communication is great but sometimes I'm the only one talking...not that he doesn't want to, I just have a hard time staying quiet long enough for him to voice his opinion. 

Well, I have learned from many years of my own marriage and coaching many women that if we keep trying to do things different or wanting to see a change in their lives, health, job, finances, family dynamics etc. that we often experience pain and give up, the let down and devastation when one goes after a goal without bringing their spouse along is devastating to not only the person wanting to do things but the spouse that feels left behind.

When making a change in your own self and future you need to think of how your spouse perceives your desire for change, you taking the steps to change yourself, can be just as scary to them as you trying to change them, the thought that you might change or become different and not desire them anymore is a real threat to any marriage, so we sit in unhappiness instead of communicating our desires out of fear.  And so I encourage you to have a real heart to heart with your spouse about your reasons for taking on a personal development course, a fitness class or nutrition challenge or simple wanting to be more than you are now. Not to be a different you but to be the real you, the one you feel is on the inside waiting to come out and live. 

Take the time reduce the fears for both of you and gain the support you need from within your home and relationship. Growth in one person and not the other can be scary and can cause separation of you and your spouse or family but guess what it doesn't have to. I guarantee if you talk things out share your goals genuinely and ask for your spouse to join you or invite him or her to think about something they'd like to do so you can support them on that adventure.
communicating and working together makes your relationship so much better in all areas if you know what I mean.  

Life begins when you give yourself permission to be the real you. 

Coach Joy 

Action step: plan a date night this week with your spouse, share your heart in a positive way and see what happens. don't try changing them but bring them along with you. 

Chalene's note: Bring the other along from "Mine to Ours" and watch not only your life change but your marriage get stronger than ever.

I would love to hear about your goals and your date night click here to share your best tips for a happy marriage

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Beachbody Classic Journey: Reaching My Personal Summit

My Beachbody Classic story.

I felt to post on Facebook without sharing my thoughts and feelings just felt wrong and I know I'll get more backlash regarding my choices but I prayed if this wasn't going to glorify God that He would take this opportunity away, so I hope you take a minute to read my Classic Journey.

"I am not ashamed of being a happy healthy energetic Mom of 3 that fell in love with at home fitness 8 years ago, sharing that health is within your reach if you choose to take the time to reach for it" 

Some say I'm "just" this or I'm ok "just" being that well I know that I'm not "just" a mom of 3! I say no one is "just"'anything we were made to be amazing but it takes work and belief in yourself to ignite that spark and my journey as a coach as taught me at least 3 things

1. I get to choose to live intentionally everyday no matter what others say or do.

2. I can and have made a difference in others lives while on my own journey. I'm not where I want to be but I've come a long way and that's being the real deal.

3. This platform that Beachbody gives is the perfect opportunity to truly be who I am body, mind, soul, working toward my goals and challenging myself and that included joining the Beachbody Classic to push myself more outside my comfort zone.

I didn't take this competition lightly as far as who and what I was representing a wife, mom, women and coach that says these programs work if you do and yes it did come with doubt, challenges and me almost quitting.

My varicose veins showed more and more everyday, I felt my cellulite was so obvious, my stretch marks were ever present, my baby belly skin was not going away and guess what even with doubt and flaws I'm so proud of what I represented, I was true to me.

You might look at the top 10 and say I had no right being up there and that might be true I mean all I do are 30 minute workouts drink Shakeology & I ate pizza & frozen yogurt the week of competition.
I was representing all of my followers and challengers it's real life and you'll get real results.

I knew signing up on a whim was probably not my best decision, but I'm not a quitter ever (says a girl who stood on an ice rink over 20 minutes barefoot to win a pizza and watch a hockey game.) I know I'm goal oriented that's what's gotten me this far in life along with passion and desire to share and show being a healthy women is so incredibly worth it.

I'm not fitness challenged either, I love fitness. I love sweating and feeling strong, I love working out at home, finishing one program after another I like having a goal to visually see the finish line. Like I said my Nutrition was not so great, not spot on because I like food I like treats I guess that's what I'm working on.

So this is my story I enjoyed it, I like the stage and my husband was so proud, excited and supported and for that I'm grateful, supported with kindness never judgment.

I met amazing men & women that each had their own story to tell and used this to better themselves and show others they to can do scary things.

What are you scared of? Are you hiding behind someone, something or living in skin you'd like to shed? You don't need to walk across the stage to be a better you, but I challenge you to have a heart to heart with your reflection and set goals that scare you because you are stronger than you think or feel.

Let's set goals together! 

Coach Joy

Need a coach that will help and guide you? I'm your girl Let's connect"

"Everyone has a Summit" do you know your way?

As I sit sharing, reading and praying I'm nervous that I'm about to climb very close to a scary summit, why is it scary? Because it's dangerous? No! Because I'm alone? No! Because it's new and unknown to me.

This week my husband and I hiked new trails to a waterfall and swimming hole beyond the "normal" trail walk, I was calm mostly because I didn't have our kids with us, but I got nervous getting close to the ledge, seeing the sheer drop to wherever, and yet we continued because we knew it would lead to the water we kept hearing. Was it work mud, using trail ropes tide by others to the trees, talk about  trust!!! I fell a few times one big thud but we continued on to what was one of the most best cult falls and water hole. Had we given up when I first got scared we would have seen tree tops and missed out of all the beauty God had tucked away back on that mountains.

Do you know where you are headed, everyday you'll be faced with reaching a summit, some days it's just the other side of the laundry pile and other days God will be asking you to walk one to the sheer rocks and trust He has something amazing to show you. 

Today write down 3 thoughts, dreams, plans you have regularly and put them in order from most scary to more rewarding. Then next to them write why you haven done those things & what IF you tried to do those things, how would you feels? Whether you fail or succeeded. 

Have a great day! 

I'd love to hear about your personal summit, let's connect on  Facebook

JoyforFitness 

Team Align "REACHING OUR SUMMIT" Day 1

As we continue driving today and listening to our personal development, talking about our goals and why's I'm getting super excited that I'm able to see the endless possibilities for our family and our team.

Last year I sat on my couch watching Summit live streaming on YouTube and I bought our tickets for 2015 Nashville as soon as they opened the sale because I KNEW it would be a game change and we had to be there LIVE!!! 

I'm very blessed that a year later I've been  blessed  to share my passion of faith & fitness and empower other ladies on their healthier life journeys, sharing that it starts from within and that is KEY!!! 

Our team has grown so much and has so much potential to truly MAKE A DIFFERENCE by reaching out to EveryONE that wants to live a happy empowered life! 

So yes I'm super excited this is our first summit, my husband and I get to spend an entire week together, to hangout with our bigger team from around the country, listen to amazing guest speakers, workout with all the trainers but as we get ready to experience life changing days It makes me truly wish we had our Team Align going this year, but that isn't happening, And now I'm making it my ultimate goal to be the leader that INSPIRES & EMPOWERS our team both as challengers and coaches to realize that YOU are smart, YOU can become confident, YOU can change your income, your HEALTH and your LEGACY! Do you trust that? 

Will you consider joining us at summit next year? Will you watch Summit this weeks live streaming on YOUTUBE!  

It will change your life because it has been changing mine from day 1. I have no regrets and when someone asks me what would change if I stopping coaching my answer "nothing! Beachbody isn't my life but it gives me a energizes life, healthy marriage, real income & relationships that I owe to Beachbody's mission & products, it's not a fad it's our lifestyle" 

Team Align - helping others Aling their health according to His plan and design. 

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